Jump to content
Lost child custody because father LIED......PLEASE HELP!
Asked by grateful_mama
Posted Aug 01 2012 05:48 PM
So here's the story......My son is three years old.....When he was 6 months old the father asked us to move to where he was and for us to get married. When i arrived he lied, ultimately leaving me homeless forcing me to give him our son. I was trying to get back on my feet while he delt with CPS cases and ruining my sons future......Lying to me one day, he moved to california..(TO COMPTON!)....but i followed him and my son. After a few months of me and trying to get back on my feet again...HE MOVED AGAIN!.....this time i stayed in california bc i felt that was the best place to raise my child....while im having to go back and forth for visits......When he got back to INDIANA he filed for child custody.....i wasn't there so they granted it to him and charged me with child support....and i didn't even know this was happening to me...he lied AGAIN!......Now he wont let me have any rights and says he'll never let him live with me while going to school.....hes such a horrible parent, yelling at the kids all the time and being a narcissistic drunk.....im trying to do everything to get my son back...but he wrote this affidavit saying how i was traveling from state to state and homeless and that back when we were supposed to get married that it was really me calling him and telling him i couldn't take care of my son...then he said he sent me $700 to come down there!....all lies....and saying that ive never had any overnight stays with my son and i come over at all hours with no regard as to him and the house.....ALL LIES!!......and now the Legal Aid is working on his case and that means i cant use them....i have no lawyer!!......along with this im struggling to make ends met bc im having to go back and forth the country.......and he says after court in a couple weeks that hes moving AGAIN....which is fine bc i want to get back west bc now hes says if i don't get a place and a job that hes not gonna give me any chance in court!......which would be awesome to get a place....but what to waste my money bc were moving in 2 weeks anywhere...im so fed up with this....im losing my son and i don't know what to do.....now im so scared that the judge is gonna look at me like a silly little girl and it will be even worse!.....we have a great life in california...we live at a nice house with lots of family around.....but i dont know how to make this go away...how can i prove hes the one been in the wrong!?...isn't me not knowing about the first court date mean he frauded the courts??.....and he frauded the courts bc he lied on the affidavit.......how does joint custody work with child support???.......how can i win my son back?....if court goes bad im gonna have to kidnap my son....its something i don't want to to but i have to protect him from his monster father....im a activist and don't normally have a tax paying job....how can i prove to the judge im working?......and ofcourse ive talked to a lawyer but i cant talked to them enough to undersand everything since im gonna be representing myself in court...i need all the infomation that i can get.....HOW CAN I GET MY SON BACK!?!?....................PLEASE HELP!!!
Answered by Alejandro Ramirez
Posted Aug 07 2012 07:53 AM
I am very sorry about your story, and truthfully hope you can get help. O'Reilly Answers is an online community that serves as a technical forum for people who work with computers and related technologies to discuss such matters, so I don't know why you are using this site to ask for help.
Perhaps you confused the site with something else?
Digital Photography Club
Answered by lamontnoble
Posted Dec 17 2012 09:21 AM
First of all you must find a good lawyer that will win your case, if you really want to win the child custody you have to be honest and tell your lawyer everything or else he won`t be able to help you. My uncle lost the child custody the last year and it was one of the ugliest moments from his life, luckily he met a good lawyer that managed to prove that he deserves to get the child custody.
Answered by armandmarius
Posted Mar 15 2013 09:59 AM
I am very sorry about this, my uncle was in you situation the last year, he was devastated about this. He loved a lot his two years old son, I even bought seed favors for him to ease his pain. He got very lucky because his lawyer acted very quickly and managed to create a good impression on the judge.